Back to my natural nails

I was wearing gel nails for a few months but the fact that my nails were getting thinner and thinner every two weeks. So I decided to take them off and care for my natural nails. You will see more blog posts on my nails in the near future. You may see a few product reviews and tips that I have learned along the way.  My goal isnt long nails but healthy. This is what I am starting with.

When you arrive to this blog, what should you expect...

Well, I started this blog maybe a year or so ago with the purpose of rediscovering myself. After 7 years of being a full time mom and a few part time business ventures along the way, I am approaching a new chapter in my life. I am soon returning to the work force. I wanted to document this journey.

During this journey, I talk about my spirituality, my fashion, my family and marriage, finances, and health and beauty, and my life as a Army wive. Things that I talk to amongst friends.  When I first started my blog I talked a lot about my relationship and that led to me answering questions for others. I do not claim to be an expert but I am a friend. Which is the reason, I answer emails. It's my virtual girlfriends and coffee time.

I also talk about products that I try from time to time. If I like something, of course, I will share with my friends.

Since the New year is approaching, I am looking to find my niche with my blog. Please feel free to email me. To become a friend, and just comment. I would love to get to know my readers. See ya next year!

D.

Relationship Email....Like a virgin...uuuwwww!

So here it is!

My reader wrote me a brief email asking me my thoughts on losing her virginity. 

She stated that she is a virgin but her boyfriend is not. She is not sure if she is ready to have sex yet but get in situations that are very sexual. She asked how should she handle situations like this. 

First of all, I dont know how old you are but at any age, I believe that waiting until you are ready and comfortable is MOST important. Do not feel obligated to fulfill anyone needs but your own. If you are not ready-Dont rush it!!! 

But also remember...SAFE sex when the time comes. 

I think that you shouldn't put yourself in a situation that leads to a place that makes you uncomfortable. Please don't be ashamed to be a virgin. Also, make it known that you are not ready to have sex, yet. If your partner doesn't understand that then I "believe" that your partner is not ready to be in a relationship as such. I believe that you should also play it safe. If too much kissing or groping gets to be a bit much, then slow it down. No need to take it to a level that you are not comfortable with. I also believe that you need to know your partners feelings on this. Ensure that your partner isn't feeling that you are leading them on.  Some people prefer to avoid situations, all together. 

Communication is the key. 

My natural hair Journey.

I have a new love affair. I am loving my hair. At first, I was scared of my hair. I mean....WHAT?!?! No Perm!  Then after that first week of shock. I was in love. I have viewed many many youtube channels and blogs about hair. I still watch for styling inspiration.  I taken what others have said about their hair and made a routine for my own based on my needs. I think that is where most fail at this journey...knowing their OWN needs. People have to remember that every journey is different. I encourage my mother and sister-in-law to join this journey and each and every one of us have different issues and goals. Even different curl patterns. All of us are different and all of us HAVE to use different things to make our hair happy. Though what I have learned in this journey is Moisture and Sealants is the key to success.

What is important to me is a good moisturizer. Something that first ingredient is WATER. Then I seal it with a oil. I cant forget that trims are VERY important. I don't care what anyone say. Ethic hair DOES grow. One just have to learn  their hair needs to assist in retaining health and length. Black or ethic hair is naturally curly. Some curl patterns are tighter than others which is why moisture and oils are important.

**A quick tip** Straight hair grows faster because of the pattern. Since it is straight, the natural oils have the ability to slide down the shaft of the hair. With Curly hair, oils do not have the same ability because of that pattern. This is why moisture and a sealant is important. Our hair needs assistance to moisturize the ends. The more curls the more delicate the hair is. It is easier to break. Which is why some believe that curly hair doesnt grow. With care and food for the hair, obtaining healthy hair can be a breeze.

 I have been transitioning since April and did my big chop in October. At first my hair was hard and felt brittle. I have found some things that works for me and now I have soft and strong feeling and looking hair.

Some ask how come I dont really share what I use in my hair. This is because I dont want anyone to go out and buy what I use because it just may not work for them. Also, I am not a "all" natural kind of girl. Though when you look at my product line, I am not currently using anything that people would consider not natural. If I feel that I need a little grease or some sulfate shampoo, I will use it. Remember clean scalp, moisture, sealant, and trims is the key.

In my personal opinion, I believe that a person should use one product line. I believe that the chemist that formulate products to work or be partnered with other products in a certain line. So if I want to use Giovanni, I want to use the whole Giovanni line. I live in an area that it is hard to find certain products so I have been searching for products that I can easily find on the shelves. I have been using Curls lately. I think for about a week or so. I can't complain so far. I actually really like this line. I want to use this product for a month and THEN give a review. I am only using this line. I want to be able to review this product giving it a chance to do it's thing.

This post is getting long but there is my take on my hair. If you should have any questions, email me.

Dorothy Perkins???

If you happen to wonder pass my blog and you have shopped with Dorothy Perkins in the UK, please share your experience. The store seems awesome. I think I am going to purchase from them just to try them out. Shipping to the states is about 8 or 9 bucks. The prices are AWESOME. I will keep you posted. But yeah, If you ever been or purchased from there let me know about your experience. I think me likey.

Is it ok to be best friends with an Ex??

This was the subject on the radio the other day. Is it OK for you or your mate to be best friends with an Ex.

In my situation, I don't see the point in being BEST friends with any of my ex's. My husband is my best friend. He honestly is. I believe that a spouse should be in best friend status. That's why we made the commitment of marriage. We are friends and lovers; the total package.  I have my Bff's but my ride or die is my husband.

What about you? Why or why not?

Since this question was asked I wanted to share some info on a DITY move.

I perfer DITY moves because of my experiences with movers. 

 Where do I find a weight Station?

The easier place to get your truck weighted is a truck stop. Most truck stops or the bigger moving companies have scales. You can also do a search of weight stations http://www.coopsareopen.com/ . Most post have one nearby or on post even

Is a DITY move easier? 

Depending on the move and what you have to move will determine if it's worth the DITY move. If it's a light move, I say go for it because it's easier and you can earn some spending money. I am a personal fan of DITY moves because one I can make money. Two, I know I am more careful with my personal belongings (I have some stories). Even with a large move, I would go for the DITY move. Remember though, I am partial to a DITY move.