How do you do it??

I am sooo domestically challenged. I hate laundry. I hate cleaning the kitchen. I just hate housework. I see some people go about their business and just have the most orderly home ever. ME? Nope. I dont like a messy house. I dont like clutter or junk. I don't even like knick knacks. So cleaning isnt that bad for me because I believe in less is more. Then again I don't clean daily. I clean weekly with picking up around us daily. I am very sneaky though. My downstairs is very clean but if you go upstairs and looking in bedrooms. It can be a very scary thing on some days. Maybe its because I have just too much going on. The kids room?!?! My Gosh!!! I have them clean their own rooms but we are talking about 4 and 7 year old. Its not a very good job unless I am standing there dictating. After cooking, cleaning the kitchen afterward, helping with homework, bath and bed routine, and my homework I really don't care about having clean windows and tidy rooms.  Lord help me if I have mopping to do.  I do clean because its a necessity. I am dragging when ever I have to do it. I have been even dubbed with friends the Bleach Queen. When you visit my home of cleaning day you may think that you walked in a indoor pool. But really how do you motivate yourself to clean?? I would seriously get a maid if I worked full time.

I'm married to a soldier and the army is his mistress....

And that heffa sometimes get all the attention.

How do I handle being in a relationship with a man that is gone for long periods of time?



Chile, it's hard. Most people that are married or dating someone in the military will tell you that being in love with someone that has to put there job first is a difficult task. Also being a their spouse isnt for the weak. You have to know how to handle being alone for long periods of time.

How do I cope?

I have to take it one day at a time. I find technology and the post office to be my best friend. Cell phones, web cams, letters and boxes. These are some of my options of communication and it is very valuable time for me. I try to keep busy. Sitting around thinking about him not being here isn't going to make the time go by faster. So no "Whoa is me" syndrome. I have 3 children to also keep me busy. With their schooling, my schooling, ballet, gymnastics, tai kwon do, and everything else, I really don't have to time to sit and be depressed.

Intimacy, you ask?

You will create different ways to be intimate with each other; phone sex, cyber sex, and sexting. You get my drift right. Though intimacy isn't only sex. Its the need of being close. Sometimes, I turn my laptop on and let my husband just watch me sleep or go about my day. He said that he likes that. He can be studying (in school for his masters) and every once in a while look up to see me doing my essential stuff and he gets to be apart, so to speak.

This the short version of dealing with a long distance relationship with a soldier. I do have to say that you have to be in love and committed to each other to really be able to deal. Reunions are always the sweetest. I support my husband and I support his decision of being an Army officer. I am very proud of him. He is truly my hero. It's hard not having him around for all of us. Some days are better or worse than others. I love this man and separation is only situational. It does NOT define my relationship.

Right now...

watching...workers clean up the fallen trees from the tornado this weekend

reading... Textbooks. Back in school.


listening... Tree shredding thingy outside

knowing... I can do anything I set my mind to

wanting... a vacation
 embracing...my family

I gained a pound

Yep, I did. I pigged out on pizza this weekend and the scale told on me yesterday. I just LOVE mushroom, onion, and banana pepper pizza! I didn't realize it until later that night that I just kept returning to another slice of pizza. I cant tell you how much I had but it was more slices than I needed. Did I give up...NOPE. I kept it moving. I know that I can't do that again. I didnt drink my water like I should've this weekend. I should've had a salad with that pizza so I could have just been full. 

See I realized where I went wrong now its time to act on it. No big deal.

My new blogging schedule.

I realized that I blog all my post in one day and then have nothing else to write about later in the week. Sooooo, I took yesterday off and thought about how to fix that. I have a simple plan. Every day is a blog topic day. So here it is until I change my mind. Did I ever tell you that I am very indecisive?!!!




Monday: Healthy Living. Another from my health product reviews to weigh-ins. 3
Monday: My Right Here Right Now Segment. It really clears my mind.

Tuesday: Beauty and Fashion. If I want to talk make up or fashion. Even what new product I am trying to clean my face, I will save it for Tuesday.

Wednesday: Relationship days. This is where I am going to talk about my friendships and marriage. 

Thursday: Domestically Diva- Talking about being a housewife and things it take for me to be domestic. This is a challenge. YEP. I hate cleaning. Though, I hate a dirty house. I hate laundry. I have a family of 5. It has to be done.

Friday: My Hobbies!!! Friday's may not take off until later this summer because I'm moving.

Saturday: Mentally Healthy. This is my mind cleansing or just random talks. 




I hope that you enjoy my blog. I really do. Grab a cup. Take a seat. Enjoy my blog....flaws and all!!!!










 

Stop being a wuss Dana...

I woke up this morning and my back was stiff as......nails (ha! I havent seen my husband in months. The brain went straight there.). I got up whining. I dont want this. I dont want that. Why when I set my big weekly goals does mother nature have to come for a visit(last week). I mean I woke up with a major attitude. WTH!!! I decided that I wanted to hop on the scale for all farts sake. I know that I didnt lose a pound last week and I am really pissed about it. I mean I killed it in the gym. I wanted to see one damn pound gone.

Ok Ok Ok, You know I can get long winded.

I got naked. YEP naked. Why do I weigh myself naked is beyond me but I got naked and hopped on the scale. Looked down and there it was. I was missing those 5 lbs that I couldnt get rid of last week. I jumped off. Nearing killing myself. I mean I have DDD's and I am jumping naked. What a visual? I know. So anyway. I got back on. Yep those 5 lbs I wanted to lose are GONE finally.

All of a sudden my stiff back isn't as bad as I thought. I started talking myself into going to the gym today. I could get on the bike and ride for about a mile. Nothing to hurt my back. No weights....maybe. I mean I am working on the legs. That has nothing to do with my back. SEE!!! Those 5 lbs motivated me to get going. I am sitting here on cloud nine with my tofu sandwich, cucumber water just smiling. Well maybe not with the tufu and cucumber. I thought that make sound a bit more official. Its more like a hard boiled egg, yogurt and a whole wheat english muffin with a teaspoon of sugar-free jam. YUM. I think I may be the only person in the world that LOVES hard boiled eggs. A little hot sauce and pepper and I am in chicken heaven.

The moral to this story.....Dont give up! I didnt give up Monday. I still worked out. I still maintain control on my eatting and I still lose those 5 lbs that I needed to lose last week.

Now to work on this scale addiction.......

Sex vs. Love: topic of the day

What you didn't know I LOVE Wendy Williams. How you DEWIN?
 What this video and lets discuss.




My thoughts...Well I actually agree with Wendy. Sometimes the romance needs to start before you get in the bed. Do the little things to lead up to the sex. You are loving on your husband, flirting with your husband, just the sneak that little dirty note his pocket sometimes makes the sex even more explosive. Also, there are times you need to take charge in the bedroom. Communicate what you want through body actions and sweet whispers. Men are mind readers. A lot of women always say that men thing with the wrong head. If that's truly the case then you have to remind him. "Hey, I need some foreplay buddy!!"  Don't wait until you are married for ions and then try to change up. You have to be open from day one with your mate. My husband and I have been together for 14 years. There are some times its like get while you can. Having 3 small children in the house doesn't really define romance. So the little things leading up to that sexual encounter REALLY means a lot. Also if he is pleasing you, you need to please him. He has wants and needs just like us, ladies. Which means in the beginning communication is imperative. Going into the relationship knowing the wants and desires will clear up all those welll...eeewwww and you want me to do what!!!!


Remember you can always shoot me an email with your questions on relationships anonymously. I will try to answer the best I can with the knowledge that I have. Until next time.....