Tuesday, May 31, 2011

I really enjoyed this article from Black and married with kids. Not only people of color could benefit from this article but all married couples. I have been with  my husband 15 years and married for 11 of them. The 3 topics that are in important to us are

1. God
2. Our Children
3. Finances-This is a reality. We need it to survive and being able to manage it with a partner is what is key. In marriages, there are many ways to budget and handle your money but the key is being able to communicate which way is best for the FAMILY.  Later, I will share how my husband and I manage our budget and bills.

Actually these three topics were  actually important before marriage. We talk about many different subjects but those are usually the top three. Communication is what kept us together. Well, it is actually want attracted us to each other; our ability to communicate to so well. We do argue and get mad at each other. No marriage is perfect but being able to calm down and talk things out is what keeps that harmonious marriage going with ease, in my opinion.



Money and Marriage Success through CommunicationDECEMBER 30, 2010 · by Dr. Taffy Wagner

The list goes on and on. Favors, floral arrangements, bridal bouquet, groom’s cake, wedding cake, apartment, houses, cars, car insurance, life insurance and even retirement planning. Whether you are engaged, newlywed or married for years, communication about finances is essential for money and marriage success.

(Remember: arguing isn’t communicating. Say that to yourself three times.)Engaged couples fall into the trap of money talk being about the wedding and not preparation for the marriage.   Here’s a tip: Couples can actually gain insight into each other’s financial behavior if they closely watch what brings up the financial discussion.

First if someone purchases an item not in the budget, both should consider this: Does one person have to get their way or is there a spirit of compromise? If one person is manipulating everything to get their way, it’s not healthy for the relationship.

Second, when money issues come up who just goes with the flow to keep the peace? Avoiding the topic can lead to more problems that are bigger than money. Do not deny what is happening in the relationship. Whether it is spending or one person not paying their bills and mentioning it to the other – take the time to learn how to talk WITH each other about money instead of AT one another.

According to a survey by the Association of Bridal Consultants, more than 67% of newlyweds believe the most serious conflict in their first year of marriage is over money.That wouldn’t be the case if couples were more preventative than reactive, when it comes to financial skeletons in the closet.

Men and women entering into relationships should understand this first and foremost, when you are walking down the aisle to unite – you are literally standing saying I have my 20 something years of managing money this way and you have your 20 plus years and now we are going to combine these different styles without talking about it and we’ll live happily ever after.

Take your own survey of people that have been married for many many years. Ask them what are the most important topics when it comes to their union. I bet you nine times out of ten money is in the top five issues. Talking about money during the engagement is only the beginning because once you are married, you will be making choices regarding home purchases, employment, education, parenting, retirement and even dealing with elderly parents and your role. Begin talking about money today for the benefit of your marriage instead of avoiding it because you are afraid.

Communication about money is an ongoing conversation and not a one time chat. Respect and love each other enough to start your marriage on sound money communication footing. Remember: for richer, for poorer.

Dr. Taffy Wagner is a Certified Educator in Personal Finances and Money and Marriage Advocate. Dr. Wagner provides premarital and postmarital financial counseling for couples. You can contact her via her site at www.moneytalkmatters.com.
I really enjoyed this article from Black and married with kids. Not only people of color could benefit from this article but all married couples. I have been with  my husband 15 years and married for 11 of them. The 3 topics that are in important to us are

1. God
2. Our Children
3. Finances-This is a reality. We need it to survive and being able to manage it with a partner is what is key. In marriages, there are many ways to budget and handle your money but the key is being able to communicate which way is best for the FAMILY.  Later, I will share how my husband and I manage our budget and bills.

Actually these three topics were  actually important before marriage. We talk about many different subjects but those are usually the top three. Communication is what kept us together. Well, it is actually want attracted us to each other; our ability to communicate to so well. We do argue and get mad at each other. No marriage is perfect but being able to calm down and talk things out is what keeps that harmonious marriage going with ease, in my opinion.



Money and Marriage Success through CommunicationDECEMBER 30, 2010 · by Dr. Taffy Wagner

The list goes on and on. Favors, floral arrangements, bridal bouquet, groom’s cake, wedding cake, apartment, houses, cars, car insurance, life insurance and even retirement planning. Whether you are engaged, newlywed or married for years, communication about finances is essential for money and marriage success.

(Remember: arguing isn’t communicating. Say that to yourself three times.)Engaged couples fall into the trap of money talk being about the wedding and not preparation for the marriage.   Here’s a tip: Couples can actually gain insight into each other’s financial behavior if they closely watch what brings up the financial discussion.

First if someone purchases an item not in the budget, both should consider this: Does one person have to get their way or is there a spirit of compromise? If one person is manipulating everything to get their way, it’s not healthy for the relationship.

Second, when money issues come up who just goes with the flow to keep the peace? Avoiding the topic can lead to more problems that are bigger than money. Do not deny what is happening in the relationship. Whether it is spending or one person not paying their bills and mentioning it to the other – take the time to learn how to talk WITH each other about money instead of AT one another.

According to a survey by the Association of Bridal Consultants, more than 67% of newlyweds believe the most serious conflict in their first year of marriage is over money.That wouldn’t be the case if couples were more preventative than reactive, when it comes to financial skeletons in the closet.

Men and women entering into relationships should understand this first and foremost, when you are walking down the aisle to unite – you are literally standing saying I have my 20 something years of managing money this way and you have your 20 plus years and now we are going to combine these different styles without talking about it and we’ll live happily ever after.

Take your own survey of people that have been married for many many years. Ask them what are the most important topics when it comes to their union. I bet you nine times out of ten money is in the top five issues. Talking about money during the engagement is only the beginning because once you are married, you will be making choices regarding home purchases, employment, education, parenting, retirement and even dealing with elderly parents and your role. Begin talking about money today for the benefit of your marriage instead of avoiding it because you are afraid.

Communication about money is an ongoing conversation and not a one time chat. Respect and love each other enough to start your marriage on sound money communication footing. Remember: for richer, for poorer.

Dr. Taffy Wagner is a Certified Educator in Personal Finances and Money and Marriage Advocate. Dr. Wagner provides premarital and postmarital financial counseling for couples. You can contact her via her site at www.moneytalkmatters.com.

52 Week Financial Challenge. Week 11

I have not forgotten about saving my money and I hope that you haven't neither. I did forget about blogging but I am still around.

This week you should be putting away $11 bringing your total savings to $66. If you are just beginning, put 66 bucks aside and lets do this. Every week represents how much you should be putting away. Like week 11, you should be setting aside at least 11 bucks.

Tuesday, May 3, 2011

Shoedazzle Shoe of the month-May

CardonaI have earned a free pair of shoes this month....YEP FREE!! So this is what I am getting... I know the shoe is different some may say ugly but have you ever noticed that some of the most compliments on your shoes were the shoes that were called ugly. HMMMM!!!!

You have signed up yet? What are you waiting for? Check them out. 



Disclaimer: I was not asked to promote or inform the public about shoedazzle. This is just a way that I can share my love for shoes .

Week 7 of financial challenge

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Hey ya'll I hope that you haven't stopped saving. We are now in our 7th week. Which means you should be or have put aside seven dollars which brings us to $28 dollars. Ya'll this is real simple and I hope you can hang in there.