When you are addicted to drugs, you have to stop drug intake. If you are an alcoholic, no more alcohol. A smoker has to ditch the cigs. They have to maintain their life avoiding their addiction.
But what about a food addict? You don't think that there is a such thing. Think again! Food can be an addiction but how do you overcome that addiction. You cant avoid. You are faced with your addiction everyday. You have to teach yourself the benefits of food and how to eat food. Another think that I have to do is learn to put exercise in my routine...one a regular basis. Whether I enjoy it or not, I have to do it. 30 minutes to an hour per day. I have to move and groove along with eating better.
I believe that in order to face my addiction to eating, its to avoid processed food. Ever notice that when you get that easy boxed or fast food that you want more and more. Drink one soda and you have a need for another. I feel that the stuff is addicting. Not to mention, anything that you eat processed can be made at home.
So what's the purpose of this blog post, you say!!! Well I think I am going to try to cut down the processed food in my diet. From time to time, I may share some recipes with you that can be inexpensive and easy because that's why we sought out processed food is price and time.
Wednesday, November 16, 2011
Tuesday, November 15, 2011
Dear Dana...(TDY)Temporarily Divorced for a year???
First I would like to thank you for this email. I havent received one of these in a while and I will try to answer it as best as I can. I will paraphrase and leave out any personal demographics, as always.
Today, I was asked if I ever heard of TDY...Temporary Divorced for a year and should military spouses be concerned....
Yes, I have heard of the term a few times before. I really dislike the term because its a pretty derogatory stereotype...
Yet it is true is some marriages. I have heard that it is an accepted behavior in some marriages or relationships. I was told that its a way for each person to have intimate relationships when the service member is deployed of at a temporary duty station.
Do I agree with it?
Well, I say to each its own. If that works in some relationships and it doesn't create any issues then do you. But personally, no.
Do I believe that it is healthy?
Personally no. I believe that if you are married it should be between two people with no outsiders (temporary mates). I believe that if you feel that you have to do that maybe the commitment to marriage isn't quite there yet.
One of the hardest things to deal with in a marriage with a service member is the absence. I truly believe that a couple should seek marital or relationship counseling to help handle the absence of intimacy, if the situation is too hard to deal with. (But this is also coming from someone that is planning to get my masters in Marriage Counseling) I believe that seeking a mediator can be a good thing. Seeking out advise and assistance can give another perspective and also offer ideas to keep intimacy going in a relationship even when the service member is away. Also talking to your mate is key. You need to know what they need and what you need in the relationship while he or she is away. Even I have different things or practices that my husband do to try to keep intimacy alive, even when he is miles and miles away.
Another thing we must remember is that intimacy is not always sex. These are things that you need to be open with your spouse about. Know what intimacy means to each other. Once you know, you need to identify want each other is comfortable with and try to move from there. I cannot stress this enough....COMMUNICATION is key! You have to communicate to each other your needs in order to have them fulfilled.
If sex is a must, then maybe we are talking about something deeper than what is on surface and that in itself needs to be faced and handled.
Do I think that majority of service members and spouses believe in the Temporary Divorced for a year?
Absolutely not! As military families we have and can maintain healthy relationships. But like any other healthy relationship, we have to remember any relationship takes hard work and dedication.
I hope that answered your question. Please feel free to email me if you should have any more questions. I am not a professional counselorand can only offer you "friend to friend" opinions. When in need of counseling as a military spouse, we can always call ACS for referrals to professional counselors.
Today, I was asked if I ever heard of TDY...Temporary Divorced for a year and should military spouses be concerned....
Yes, I have heard of the term a few times before. I really dislike the term because its a pretty derogatory stereotype...
Yet it is true is some marriages. I have heard that it is an accepted behavior in some marriages or relationships. I was told that its a way for each person to have intimate relationships when the service member is deployed of at a temporary duty station.
Do I agree with it?
Well, I say to each its own. If that works in some relationships and it doesn't create any issues then do you. But personally, no.
Do I believe that it is healthy?
Personally no. I believe that if you are married it should be between two people with no outsiders (temporary mates). I believe that if you feel that you have to do that maybe the commitment to marriage isn't quite there yet.
One of the hardest things to deal with in a marriage with a service member is the absence. I truly believe that a couple should seek marital or relationship counseling to help handle the absence of intimacy, if the situation is too hard to deal with. (But this is also coming from someone that is planning to get my masters in Marriage Counseling) I believe that seeking a mediator can be a good thing. Seeking out advise and assistance can give another perspective and also offer ideas to keep intimacy going in a relationship even when the service member is away. Also talking to your mate is key. You need to know what they need and what you need in the relationship while he or she is away. Even I have different things or practices that my husband do to try to keep intimacy alive, even when he is miles and miles away.
Another thing we must remember is that intimacy is not always sex. These are things that you need to be open with your spouse about. Know what intimacy means to each other. Once you know, you need to identify want each other is comfortable with and try to move from there. I cannot stress this enough....COMMUNICATION is key! You have to communicate to each other your needs in order to have them fulfilled.
If sex is a must, then maybe we are talking about something deeper than what is on surface and that in itself needs to be faced and handled.
Do I think that majority of service members and spouses believe in the Temporary Divorced for a year?
Absolutely not! As military families we have and can maintain healthy relationships. But like any other healthy relationship, we have to remember any relationship takes hard work and dedication.
I hope that answered your question. Please feel free to email me if you should have any more questions. I am not a professional counselorand can only offer you "friend to friend" opinions. When in need of counseling as a military spouse, we can always call ACS for referrals to professional counselors.
How to tell if your curly hair needs more moisture
especially in the winter. Well this is one way that I can tell with the ladies in my house hair.
I can tell that our hair is hungry for moisture based on our curl pattern most of the time. When our curls are more fizzy and has less bounce its usually a good indicator for us. Soon as I add that extra moisture back in our hair the curls are smooth and has beautiful shine, again. Well since the fall is here I have noticed that I need to add extra moisture. For the girls, it is as simple as adding a co-wash midweek and for myself adding more deep conditioning with the heat of my hooded dryer to my routine. I don't co-wash often for my hair because my scalp really doesn't like it. The co-washing for the girls makes their hair so bouncy and has a great sheen.
One thing to remember with your hair is that moisture is not mineral oil or any other oil. They are sealants. I believe that is why people believes that oils dry their hair out. Not so much that its drying their hair out but its just coating already dry hair blocking any moisture from being adsorb from the atmosphere.
The key is finding a good moisturizer is a product that offers you water as the first ingredient. I tend to purchase moisturizers that do not have mineral oil because I want to lock the oil in my hair myself. I am not against oils in products but I want to add the oils to my hair when I feel that I have delivered enough moisture I personally believe that if the product already has a sealant then I can not add more moisture because it has already placed a seal on the strands. But that is just me. There are also a lot of products on the market that does offer this and is affordable. I realize people are very concerned about doing product broke. You just have to read the label.
Once I have added my desired moisture to my hair, I seal. Seal your hair with whatever your hair likes. But one thing that I suggest is to not oil your scalp. You body and hair produces natural oils and its no need to oil the scalp.
People also tend to forget that when we are not drinking enough water our body, skin, and hair suffers. So make sure that you are drinking plenty of water.
November's shoedazzle picks
I am WAYYY late with this but I forgot all about it. This month..well today I ordered two pairs of shoes. I had a credit so I was able to get to pair of shoes for the price of one. So here are my Shoedazzle picks for this month.
When the chocolate brown pair arrives I will add pictures since it is blurry here.
When the chocolate brown pair arrives I will add pictures since it is blurry here.Monday, November 14, 2011
Grease and water twist outs...forgot about something
I just realized that I cant start my protective styling challenge until December because I was already challenging myself well documenting if my hair enjoys my grease and water twist outs.
I wore it in a donut bun last week realizing that I was supposed to be documenting my grease and water results...Doing too much. LOL!!! So I am back at my twist outs. Co-washing tonight...
So far so good. The only thing that I did realize is that I prefer my hair twisted with grease when its clean and wet. They are neater, less greasy feeling and no build up. Other than that, I still say that my twist outs with grease are amazing.
I do use a leave-in under my grease for twisting... I have been dipping and dabbing with those also.
I also ordered Ilovemyfro black tea moisturizer and avocado oil this weekend. When it arrives I will have a give a product preview and review after a week of use.
Here's some info from the website.
Black tea contains caffeine that has many benefits for hair. It has been proven to thicken the hair, slow or stop shedding and stimulate growth.
The main benefit of caffeine is that it blocks the DHT (Dihydrotestosterone) from causing hair to shed.
Ingredients: Distilled Water, Black Tea, Aloe Vera Juice, Vegetable Glycerin, Essential Oils, Citric Acid and Fragrance.
How to Use: Apply to freshly shampooed, conditioned and detangled hair before applying a moisturizer or styling product. Can also be used daily to refresh your style.
Can also be used as a detangler!
Caution: Will slightly darken hair.
Avocado oil has a number of benefits and uses and its use in hair care is one of its most important benefits.
It is an edible oil that is extracted from the avocado fruit pulp and has a sweet and nutty aroma.
It has a light texture that makes it easy to soak into the scalp and skin.
Use of avocado oil for hair can help deal with a number of hair related problems like hair fall, thinning hair and dandruff.
A Cake Box Remix
I had a get together Saturday for a the Pacquiao and Marques fight. Needless to say, I am disappointed in the Marques lost. Don't get me wrong I LOVE Pacquiao but I wanted the underdog to take it.
But anyyyyyway! This is about cake. I dont have picture today because my greedy family torn into that cake like ravishing beast.
I don't have a recipe per say because I never follow a recipe accordingly but if you are interested in a quick crowd pleaser, try this. I will not do you wrong. The recipe that I found was intended for chocolate and cherries but I was in the mood for strawberry. Try any mix that you fancy! I am sure it will be a winner!!!
Grab a box of this
and a can of 
.
You can make your own of both but we are taking about creating a fast cake for a crowd.
You will also need 3 large eggs. I beat them before I added it to the box mix. I also used a hand mixer for this Then combined the box mix and the lightly beaten eggs. You can also add a little Almond extract, if you like but not necessary. It may be a little sticky but add a little water not a lot just a tablespoon or so, as needed. Then once the mix and eggs are will blended FOLD in the strawberries. Do not over mix. You can place in any kind of baking dish you want (like I said easy peasy)and put it in your preheated 350 degree oven for about 25 to 30 minutes.
My key to moist cakes and cupcakes is to purchase a oven thermometer to ensure that the oven is actually reading correctly.
Also do not open your oven until about 25 minutes into baking to check for readiness.
This is a easy treat that you can put together in a hurry. Hope you enjoy!
But anyyyyyway! This is about cake. I dont have picture today because my greedy family torn into that cake like ravishing beast.
I don't have a recipe per say because I never follow a recipe accordingly but if you are interested in a quick crowd pleaser, try this. I will not do you wrong. The recipe that I found was intended for chocolate and cherries but I was in the mood for strawberry. Try any mix that you fancy! I am sure it will be a winner!!!
Grab a box of this
and a can of .You can make your own of both but we are taking about creating a fast cake for a crowd.
You will also need 3 large eggs. I beat them before I added it to the box mix. I also used a hand mixer for this Then combined the box mix and the lightly beaten eggs. You can also add a little Almond extract, if you like but not necessary. It may be a little sticky but add a little water not a lot just a tablespoon or so, as needed. Then once the mix and eggs are will blended FOLD in the strawberries. Do not over mix. You can place in any kind of baking dish you want (like I said easy peasy)and put it in your preheated 350 degree oven for about 25 to 30 minutes.
My key to moist cakes and cupcakes is to purchase a oven thermometer to ensure that the oven is actually reading correctly.
Also do not open your oven until about 25 minutes into baking to check for readiness.
This is a easy treat that you can put together in a hurry. Hope you enjoy!
Friday, November 11, 2011
Happy Veteran's Day
- The battle, sir, is not to the strong alone; it is to the vigilant, the active, the brave...Patrick Henry
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